Talking to Esme about "Davina" yesterday and reading this preamble to a wider report on crossdressing rang a bell in its last scentance.
In terms of me Crossdressing Esme seems to have overcome the thought that Davina would run off with a man / another woman / or another T girl and pushed to the back of her mind the sexuality aspect.. Her main fear is someone will find out that I am a Crossdresser and/or that she is married to a crossdresser.
On the face of it so what we may say.. But.. The Muggles (non crossdressing folk) dont understand crossdressing and the many reasons we do it so the main thought will be pervert.. Hence her biggest fear the effect this would have on us should my secret ever get out.
The term cross-dressing is usually used (but not always) to refer to cisgender, heterosexual men who wear clothing and accessories that are considered feminine or associated with women.
Studies have been conducted to understand the phenomenon of transvestism, or crossdressing, as it is commonly referred.
The purpose of this study was to explore the effects of crossdressing on a person's dating/love relationships and sexual practices.
Most of the men had identified themselves as crossdressers for decades.
I identify with this 3 decades at least.
Almost all of the respondents had an entire femme persona with name, and regularly appeared in public crossdressed.
Davina.. But not a regular in public.
Esme wasn't happy when I told her I'd left the hotel when away as Davina on 3 occasions prior to us venturing out in London.. No harm done and no one from work in the hotel and who's gonna notice its me..??
Most of the men were married to women who were tolerant or accepting of their activity.
Amazing if you can find such tolerance.
The most negative responses were from wives who had found out about their husband's crossdressing years into their marriage.
Understandable but as we discussed yesterday (Esme and I) my dressing for years was sporadic.. It returned with force after she dressed me as a woman, seeing myself in makeup, getting a wig, stress of work and wearing things I wish shed wear more..
Other t girls have expressed this to an extent.. Wearing things their wife used to wear but doesn't any more and for most their childhood cross dressing habit returns a compensation wearing something yourself.
Feelings of anger, betrayal and fear were typical reactions by these women.
Esme went through all that..wish shed come on here again and explain her thoughts on all this..
The most common concern expressed by the crossdressers' partners was having others find out about their husband's behavior.
Exactly what Esme said..
I agree, my wife is petrified of the kids finding out, or anyone else for that matter. She is gaining understanding (tonight I am sat in the other room dressed waiting for her to come of a video call, she has not seen the new dress and heels yet) but still we have to be assured no one is coming to the house, I draw the blinds before dressing and we lock the front door and leave the key in. Her fears are partly justified by societies attitudes to crossdressers, but having lived with it for 4 decades I know the majority of people don't give a damn if it is a bloke in a dress, as long as it does not threaten their cosy lives it is acceptable and they just shrug their shoulders and move on!