Agreed Anneka

This reasoned post is the very reason I begged you to join the forum 😜

I stopped myself crossdressing for most of fifteen years. There's no way that I'd stop if someone 'told me to.' You might as well tell someone (me) not to run, or eat icecream, or drive a car.

'snot going to happen: (I like it, I like it, it's useful).

The common refrain on another site is, "I like to do it, and it doesn't harm anyone."

I believe that if the behaviour - whether icecream eating, crossdressing, or running - really doesn't harm anyone - ie: the other half, or the person who's doing it - then to stop doesn't make sense. It only makes a "why??"

Separately, even if someone's dressing actually is causing harm (within a relationship context), it seems that they're probably unlikely to stop forever because this stuff is hardwired in - or so deeply retrofitted as to be irremovable.

Who knows what the fututre hold. I like the idea of a 'friend you can turn to in a moment of need'. Plus saves a fortune!

Many Cross dressers 'purge' but they nearly always come back and more often than not a few hundred quid lighter in the pocket!! it is just easier to put her in a box and have a little seperation!! When you ahve been dressing for more than 30 years it will never go away and it will be a friend you can turn too in a moment of need.

I think weve had this conversation a long time ago.

I enjoy it it helps me chillax why would i want to stop.

But i wont rule out one day if i look rediculous as "Davina" i may stop who knows

Had this conversation early on and he sais he didnt think he could stop but he did try and failed as he snuck behind my back and dressed.

We set up times when hed be home alone so he could dress and id ring to say i was headding home but so much easier now im not worried about him dressing and seeing him dressed he feels we wasted a lot of time getting to this stage where im ok him crossdressing but its taken us all time to try to understand it.

Asking him to stop dressing is like asking him not to watch football ingrained part of him.

Rebecca (wife)

Did anyone watch the transition street program pretty grusome thing to go through my other half was cringing lol underlined that he doesnt want to go that far haha

I dont think it reasonable to tell a man to stop crossdressing its part of who you are and also a coping thing

Emma (wife)

I could try but I don't want to 😁👢💋👠👗👙👚💄