By: Sindy

Subject: Question for wives....

I'm guessing there aren't enough reading here to respond but maybe at least Emma will. :-).

I'm curious what makes one wife more accepting than another. I was actually a little shocked at my own response upon learning my husband crossdressed. Not so much why he did it, as I have always accepted the differences in human life, but the almost repulsed feeling I immediately felt. It took me completely by surprise! Yet it was so instantaneous and innate there was literally nothing I could do. Yet, if one of my platonic male friends had told me the same thing I'd have probably shrugged, told him to pour me another drink while we browsed his shoe collection. I literally had gay male friends I would do this with lol.

So yeh, my acceptance and understanding was pretty low considering who I was, and it has changed over time but I also now know that just as my husband won't stop crossdressing, I won't stop being mildly repulsed by it. We have since worked around this the best we can, which is difficult I'll tell you, and I still have days where I wonder if we'll stay together when the kids leave etc. I think if more free time meant he dressed more then I know I'd likely separate. It really seems to push the wrong buttons for me and I really can't get around it.

Anyway, how have others reacted here (husbands can respond on behalf of their wives) and were you surprised with your response? Is it changing over time or has that initial reaction remained?