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My wife knows but won’t get involved.

Hi Girls,

I see from some of the post here there are some very supportive wives. I have a situation where my wife knows, is fine me going off and dressing. She even talks to me about my adventures. However, there is one sticking point. She WILL NOT look at a picture of Liz. I just want her to know I am getting up to some pretty innocent fun being my female self however she gets quite nasty if I press her on the point. I’d dearly like her to get to know Liz, but there seems to be no way. Another side effect is that there is to be no dressing around the house, so I have to sneak around, sometime outside, in secret. How can I persuade her to go the last mile and accept me for what I am?

Love Liz xx

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Chelle (R’s Wife)

Oh Elizabeth my actual heart bleeds for you - what is the’dark secret’ she would rather imagine- that you are having an affair that she could possibly deny- is that something she would prefer to look away from rather than you being utterly faithful and being more in touch with your feminine side making you a more affectionate and thoughtful partner- I wouldn’t swap my Rachel for anyone xx

Davina

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I can see how an affair can be a marriage ender and I can also see how affairs can happen which I'll come back to.

It's sad to see some couples split up over Crossdressing there's fun to have with crossdressing and there's a happier healthier less stressed man in your life just spending a few hours per week or month in "women's" clothing etc.

Back to affairs..

I've asked tgirls and admirers why they cheat and the stock answers are below from t girls.

Wives haven't accepted them dressing - this is no excuse to cheat but most t girls seek affection and some find that affection elsewhere.. some with men or other t girls.
Wives stopped making an effort with makeup, lingerie etc this is a reason amongst why men crossdress as well as a given reason to cheat.
Wives / GFs sex drives and even lack of affection or rejection of the male - men seem to have far higher sex drives and more vivid fantasies, some women don't even think about sex? And their sex drive diminishes leaving the man high and dry, I don't think women realise men need affection too, a hug / catch, kisses and touching when our advances are shunned or shut down we feel hurt, we feel well pissed off I suppose if we don't get signs of affection and some men intentionally and some unintentionally find that affection elsewhere.. some even chase tgirls.
Contentment is a reality also a woman may be content in a relationship ticked all her goals, white wedding, house, car, job, kids.. now content but the male in the relationship still wants the early days sex life the wife in red lippy stockings and heels and sometimes that's suddenly switched off and there's nothing the man can do about it sure he can bring up you aren't dressing for him any more and get a cold shoulder even a double down on no lingerie life decision.. the man will most certainly be looking at other women presenting how a wife used to present and may even cheat or again chase a tgirl.

All this I've gleaned from chatting to others and asking why they cheat..

Some simple things in there like kissing, hugging, makeup, lingerie to keep the spark alive and also the simple thing Crossdressing even if a wife doesn't want to see it .. isn't your hubby dressing up as a woman in private when you're not home better than him having an affair.

Elizabeth Jane

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Hi ‘Chelle,

In her own words ‘why would I want to look at an emasculated version of my husband’. I just wanted her to see what Liz looks like, how she is a very proper sort of lady and someone not feel ashamed of. But never the twain and all that…. What I don’t unbderstand is she will freely talk about it with me. She just doesn’t want to look at me either pictured or in the flesh. I don’t look that bad, do I?

Love Liz xx

Davina

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My wife didn't want to see me for years.. then one day.. hello

Suzzanne

My wife knows but is definitely NOT interested in anything to do with my dressing, my clothes, my accessories etc. Everything I do is outside our house including every time I get an opportunity to dress, clothes storage, photoshoots, buying everything I need (or want tbf 😁), online orders, charity shop rummages etc, etc. Much as I'd like some understanding or participation, for her to see me dressed or for us to go to an event together, I don't think it's ever going to happen, she is so dead against it. I'm sure since she found out she has been less understanding and we have had some rough times but we barely talk about it these days.

Unfortunately you may be in a similar situation, despite what you would like, your wife has her boundaries and that's that. She may be fine with you discussing what you do and what you get up to but to actually SEE it just crosses that line. Maybe seeing you dressed would just compromise your masculinity in her eyes. Who knows! Hard as it is, you might be as far along the line as your likely to get. I'd definitely not recommend just surprising her either!!!

Elizabeth Jane

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Hi Suzzanne,

I think you might be right on all fronts here. I did sent her a link a few weeks back to my private cache of photos, but all I got was a message back saying ‘please respect my boundaries’. You wouldn’t think we live in the same house but I am up upstairs most of the time working! I guess I am going to just have to ‘like it’ and limit my dressing to where and when I can. It would be so helpful if I was allowed to do it at home!

Love Liz xx

Davina

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My wife's rules changed bit by bit I took it at her pace.

Davina

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It took 8 years for my wife to meet me and does feel like 8 years wasted

Davina

My wife set rules initially not wanting to see me dressed..

Then wanted to know if I was dressed so she'd not come home and I'm having to undress quickly.

Then was ok me dressing upstairs when she was home.

Then ok when I worked from home dressed but wanted to know if I was doing it.

Then one day she came home in her lunch time knowing I was dressed and came to meet Davina out of the blue at her own pace

That night we ordered me a better wig together.

That weekend we had our first girls night in.. and the rest is history..

It's frustrating I know I always think back to the years of worry and wanting to assure my wife we were ok 8 years she wouldn't see me as Davina then in her own time and terms came to say hi and was pleasantly surprised that I didn't look like a drag queen but a passable woman.

The wig we ordered

ally4322022

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No wonder you get all those valentine's, looking great x

Davina

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That was me in my early 30s wish I was that slim and young again