Davina' responses to the thread where women react to having a hypothetical crossdressing partner suggests there is still a HUGE amount of confusion about the topic.

First thing I noticed is the perplexed feeling expressed by crossdressers that women will support them but won't date them. I struggle to see why this isn't obvious? But I realised it's the same way crossdressing men feel when women ask if they're gay. It's this, 'wtf, are you serious?' feeling. It seems obvious to women why they would avoid a crossdressing partner, and yet, the man who crossdresses is there listing all his other positive traits and wondering why it matters so much. It does though.

I remember reading a thread where supportive wives of crossdressers were asked if they'd have married their partner had they known from the start, and all but one said no. So even the supportive women wouldn't have chosen this path. With this in mind, why are men always surprised when they receive a negative response? All the justifying in the world won't change the collective female mindset that being with a man who doesn't crossdress is better than being with one who does. And whether this is actually true, because clearly crossdressing is better than an alcoholic or abuser or any number of other traits hands down, it is still how women think. And I don't think it's entirely social conditioning either. I remember a running theme between women, that there were so few 'normal' men available and that there was always something.

And isn't this a fact? Most of the compulsive human behaviors seem to attach to men. Watch a documentary on men buying those silicon Real Dolls and driving them around in their cars, treating them like actual women, or other guys living vivid fantasy lives where they're in love with giant women etc, or porn addicts, or gamblers or cheaters or voyeurs (all behaviors of friends husbands) and it can be exhausting wondering what you're going to get when you meet a man. Are there any who don't do this stuff? Because, really, I think most women would prefer a simple life with a guy who is content as he is. No games. No props. No fantasies and dress up and pretence and confusion. Just a guy who wants to be with a girl (not look like a girl, lol). The end.

Does he exist? I believe so, and some women out there have this rare gem. The rest of us meet amazing men who bring a dimension to the relationship we would prefer to do without, but if we are to be with the men we love, we must live with these quirks.

But it is exhausting, and disappointing, and just like men get upset that women stop getting dolled up or whatever, it's equally upsetting that men can't just lose the complicated behaviors and be content to just...be.

Men are from Mars. That is all. :-) x