My previous comment on the other thread about being 'outed' reminded me of a question, and some advise, that I've been meaning to ask you guys. Given crossdressing isn't casual conversation yet, and society is still cruel to those who step into 'taboo' areas, do you think you'll be able to keep this hidden from your kids and friends and family and take this to the grave with you? Or do you plan on 'outing' yourselves one day so you can be less secretive about it? I think my husband would cope if everyone know but I also think he'd be mortified. The sad thing is, once you're 'outed' as a crossdresser, that is all you become. People are not very good at seeing past taboo to all the other things that you are. So father/brother/hard worker/cricket coach/alpha male or whatever, all that disappears and you become known only as 'that crossdresser guy'. I have seen this happen to people for other issues, (mental illness is sadly equally taboo) but it does happen. Our generation sucks. :-(

So, what's the long term plan? And do you know what your wives might do if you did out yourself at large? I suspect, and this pains me to say, that my marriage would end. Not because I would think he's a bad guy, but because a situation like that would misrepresent me even more than him. I have a real issue with being defined by other people (stems back to childhood stuff so it's pretty innate) and being forever referred to as the wife of 'the crossdresser' would send me over the deep end. My husband actually knows this and understands why, and he even says if he's silly enough to get outed that he does know the ramifications and he accepts them. Fair enough, he is doing his best to keep it hidden, and we've communicated about it. What more can we do? But do you guys have any suggestions or plans yourselves to keep this hidden until you meet your maker?