The single biggest issue, I think, for most crossdressing men is the problems it causes/has caused, their personal relationships. Am I right? It seems that in between any conversations about 'what color panties are you wearing' and the fantasy chat about getting zapped into a woman for a day (gotta love those ones lol) are the endless commiserations of men who are living a fairly precarious, often miserable life with women who either didn't know about the crossdressing, or didn't know what it entailed.
So here's what I want to know: What would you say to your younger selves that might help them avoid this situation? What would the wives tell themselves p?
I think I would tell my younger self to run, haha!
But seriously, if I put that initial thought aside and assume I still adore my children and family (I do!) and I still want this life, I think I would tell my younger self to not fear the unknown and to not feel threatened by information. I would demand my new husband sit down with me and explain it all in depth...all of it. I would make myself listen without fear, if possible, and then I would take the time to really see how I feel about it, and then insist he hear my concerns. I would then want my younger self to feel empowered enough to speak up about boundaries and my own needs instead of playing the polite girlfriend/wife and going along for a ride I was never comfortable with. I would want my younger self to not feel powerless about it all. I would want her to know that her feelings are as valid as his, and his need to crossdress does not override the needs of anyone else. Then, if with all that he still took them down a path of secrecy and self indulgence, I would tell her to run, lol.
What would y'all tell yourselves?
Back when I was in my 20s I didnt have the internet as it is today attitudes have changed over the years and we now know there are millions of men who crossdress not just us alone.
Katie is right definitely nothing to be ashamed of, I’m far from a freak and it has become part of who I am and forms a hidden part of my character and life only hidden as society makes a grand assumption about Crossdrrssing.
Being made to suppress the need to crossdress does lead resentment it should be something you can talk about with a loved one, girlfriend or wife and not something we find too embarasing and setting boundaries is important and important given an inch you dont take a mile and cross the line without further negotiaiton.