1 Present well – I did go through an early phase of dressing trashy but as my wife found the day she came upstairs and met me dressed for the first time I presented well so well I think she was shocked by how i’d done my makeup and what I was wearing expecting me to look like a hooker or a drag queen – So I pass this one
2 Listen to your wife give her time to digest the situation – It was 8 years of talking and negotiation and different levels of acceptance before my wife met me crossdressed so I guess I pass this one too. Great to see some on here and in the blog and emails I’ve had have progressed to acceptance far quicker.
3 Keep it Discrete – Apart from people I chat with and in this Forum and Blog only my wife knows I crossdress and none of the people I chat to etc know male me so my dressing is very discrete so another Pass.
4 War your own clothes – Over the years I’ve worn other womens clothes to get the crossdressing fix but I now have more dresses than my wife, heels, lingerie, makeup etc so another pass.
5 Take Baby steps – As in number 2 we took baby steps of acceptance over a long period of time (too long lol) so I’m half way so Far 50% pass rate
6 No lingerie in bed – It would be fun to have some “fun” in lingerie in bed but i’d honestly prefer my wife to wear the lingerie in bed although I would if it was ok with her but I don’t so another pass.
7 Seek Guidance – I’ve sought lots of guidance from the internet, chatrooms and forums and if my wife had requested I’d have seen a counsellor but the result would have been we’d have talked openly and set boundaries and I’d still crossdress… I think this is a pass
8 Respect your wife – This is another pass I respect her and have tried my best to ease her fears over the years about crossdressing and have stuck within our agreed boundaries and conditions and wouldn’t do anything without discussing it with her
9 Dress like a lady – I think I dress well and can advise my wife well. I think I dress my age which is a mistake some crossdressers make and like to dress as passable as possible (Pass)
10 Dress for your body type – As in 9 I dress my age and have good taste so another pass
10/10 Is the type of Crossdresser if you have to be married to you need to be married to lol
OK a pretty good Video Davina when are we going to see you do the British Version all glammed up. didn't she have great boobs lol
1 Present well - My other half surprised me how well he presented as a woman with good makeup skills and how he dressed so he ticked this box. Reading Davinas latest reply I guess she presented well too when his wife met him as her.
2 Listen to your wife give her time to digest the situation - Well we were more of a whirlwind than Davina by largely thanks to this blog / forum. How long did your wife take to see you Davina 8-9 years of slow progress to acceptance and different steps and different rules along the way. OK so I came herr back in April I think 2016 having found out he dressed and by the summer was taking him out shopping for his own things and re-doing my own image. It was expensive. WE talked a lot and i was guided a lot from content in Davinas blog and the chat and came to my own conclusions but to be fair he gave me time to make my own decision t at first. I guess Davina your wife may have progressed to accept your crossdressing quicker if she'd had this blog? you were more than patient over the years.
3 Keep it Discrete - WEll I know Davina and her wife agree with this and its a rule is wife stands by not wanting anyone to know and we're a behind closed door and curtains couple too. We both keep this personal and in our closet so to speak.
4 War your own clothes - He had s mainly things I threw out but was wearing mine grrrr. So last summer we did a shop and I made him go to the counter to buy it all makeup lingerie heels and all to my amusement. I have borrowed his things and don't mind him wearing my things if he asks first.
5 Take Baby steps - Well we did at first wanted to see him dressed for myself we were both nervous but I was pleasantly surprised he didn't look like a tart and with a bit of help quite convincing. I actually enjoyed our first girls night in and many since its nice to see a more vulnerable Davinas wife sees the same in him which is why she says he's nicer dressed? But if you're not as accepting baby steps are advised don't go pushing those boundaries
6 No lingerie in bed Well I'll make you jealous and say I allowed it a few times and blushing we did go at it like girls and oh my .. I'll leave it there shall I
7 Seek Guidance - We talk and talked but yeah if you struggle with it its great to talk to someone impartial about your problems but embarrassing I bet
8 Respect your wife - Goes without saying and I think to his credit he does respect me and all women (femophile that he is) and I think this helped a lot knowing what kind of man he is and still is. His crossdressing hasn't changed this.
9 Dress like a lady - Well to be honest he has better dress sense than me and can put an outfit together and will advise me or i'll ask him for advice even when getting dressed to go out or if out shopping but he did say he would dress tarty when younger which says a lot for his mums wardrobe lol. Maybe I'll get him to dress tarty for me for a laugh.
10 Dress for your body type - Well he must do as he looks quite good as a woman to be fair to him I've never seen him in something and had to say no that looks rubbish on you but I have seen pics of some crossdressers not dressing their age or body type lol sort yourself a good mirror mind you I say that about some women (bitchy)
A good 10 t are probably more we could add.
My advice is try to have fun with it and don't worry about it if you know and love him hes the same person just with a quirk to dress as a woman which can be fun it's just a few times per year not like they're doing it daily.. Sindy will think i'm the Antichrist lol.
Good advice for crossdressers especially pulling back the reins and not going ott once you've made "The confession" and shocked hell out of your wife or Girlfriend.
Communication remains the key open honest talking or writing and reviewing and keep coms open as once closed its hard start talking again.
1 Present well – I did go through an early phase of dressing trashy but as my wife found the day she came upstairs and met me dressed for the first time I presented well so well I think she was shocked by how i’d done my makeup and what I was wearing expecting me to look like a hooker or a drag queen – So I pass this one
2 Listen to your wife give her time to digest the situation – It was 8 years of talking and negotiation and different levels of acceptance before my wife met me crossdressed so I guess I pass this one too. Great to see some on here and in the blog and emails I’ve had have progressed to acceptance far quicker.
3 Keep it Discrete – Apart from people I chat with and in this Forum and Blog only my wife knows I crossdress and none of the people I chat to etc know male me so my dressing is very discrete so another Pass.
4 War your own clothes – Over the years I’ve worn other womens clothes to get the crossdressing fix but I now have more dresses than my wife, heels, lingerie, makeup etc so another pass.
5 Take Baby steps – As in number 2 we took baby steps of acceptance over a long period of time (too long lol) so I’m half way so Far 50% pass rate
6 No lingerie in bed – It would be fun to have some “fun” in lingerie in bed but i’d honestly prefer my wife to wear the lingerie in bed although I would if it was ok with her but I don’t so another pass.
7 Seek Guidance – I’ve sought lots of guidance from the internet, chatrooms and forums and if my wife had requested I’d have seen a counsellor but the result would have been we’d have talked openly and set boundaries and I’d still crossdress… I think this is a pass
8 Respect your wife – This is another pass I respect her and have tried my best to ease her fears over the years about crossdressing and have stuck within our agreed boundaries and conditions and wouldn’t do anything without discussing it with her
9 Dress like a lady – I think I dress well and can advise my wife well. I think I dress my age which is a mistake some crossdressers make and like to dress as passable as possible (Pass)
10 Dress for your body type – As in 9 I dress my age and have good taste so another pass
10/10 Is the type of Crossdresser if you have to be married to you need to be married to lol
OK a pretty good Video Davina when are we going to see you do the British Version all glammed up. didn't she have great boobs lol
1 Present well - My other half surprised me how well he presented as a woman with good makeup skills and how he dressed so he ticked this box. Reading Davinas latest reply I guess she presented well too when his wife met him as her.
2 Listen to your wife give her time to digest the situation - Well we were more of a whirlwind than Davina by largely thanks to this blog / forum. How long did your wife take to see you Davina 8-9 years of slow progress to acceptance and different steps and different rules along the way. OK so I came herr back in April I think 2016 having found out he dressed and by the summer was taking him out shopping for his own things and re-doing my own image. It was expensive. WE talked a lot and i was guided a lot from content in Davinas blog and the chat and came to my own conclusions but to be fair he gave me time to make my own decision t at first. I guess Davina your wife may have progressed to accept your crossdressing quicker if she'd had this blog? you were more than patient over the years.
3 Keep it Discrete - WEll I know Davina and her wife agree with this and its a rule is wife stands by not wanting anyone to know and we're a behind closed door and curtains couple too. We both keep this personal and in our closet so to speak.
4 War your own clothes - He had s mainly things I threw out but was wearing mine grrrr. So last summer we did a shop and I made him go to the counter to buy it all makeup lingerie heels and all to my amusement. I have borrowed his things and don't mind him wearing my things if he asks first.
5 Take Baby steps - Well we did at first wanted to see him dressed for myself we were both nervous but I was pleasantly surprised he didn't look like a tart and with a bit of help quite convincing. I actually enjoyed our first girls night in and many since its nice to see a more vulnerable Davinas wife sees the same in him which is why she says he's nicer dressed? But if you're not as accepting baby steps are advised don't go pushing those boundaries
6 No lingerie in bed Well I'll make you jealous and say I allowed it a few times and blushing we did go at it like girls and oh my .. I'll leave it there shall I
7 Seek Guidance - We talk and talked but yeah if you struggle with it its great to talk to someone impartial about your problems but embarrassing I bet
8 Respect your wife - Goes without saying and I think to his credit he does respect me and all women (femophile that he is) and I think this helped a lot knowing what kind of man he is and still is. His crossdressing hasn't changed this.
9 Dress like a lady - Well to be honest he has better dress sense than me and can put an outfit together and will advise me or i'll ask him for advice even when getting dressed to go out or if out shopping but he did say he would dress tarty when younger which says a lot for his mums wardrobe lol. Maybe I'll get him to dress tarty for me for a laugh.
10 Dress for your body type - Well he must do as he looks quite good as a woman to be fair to him I've never seen him in something and had to say no that looks rubbish on you but I have seen pics of some crossdressers not dressing their age or body type lol sort yourself a good mirror mind you I say that about some women (bitchy)
A good 10 t are probably more we could add.
My advice is try to have fun with it and don't worry about it if you know and love him hes the same person just with a quirk to dress as a woman which can be fun it's just a few times per year not like they're doing it daily.. Sindy will think i'm the Antichrist lol.
Em (Wife of a Tgirl)
Good advice for crossdressers especially pulling back the reins and not going ott once you've made "The confession" and shocked hell out of your wife or Girlfriend.
Communication remains the key open honest talking or writing and reviewing and keep coms open as once closed its hard start talking again.