By: Hannah (Wife of Crossdresser)
Subject: Hi
Good updates in the Blog and all this has been so useful to me and my husband.
It's got us talking a lot about his crossdressing and my insecurities.
Friday night having read your blog to date I noted that Davina would like a try on session to cut down on female clothing with her wife giving her the nod of that looks ok and that doesn't to rationalise clothing.
I asked my husband how much stuff he had and to show me so Friday night he brought it all down from the attic.
He's not bought much of his own but what he has bought was pretty fashionable and the rest was salvaged from black bags or charity bags after I'd had a sort out obviously he'd had a sort out.
We'd had a few glasses of wine and I found myself saying "Come on then lets see you in these dresses" to which he said "Well I'll need a shave and to put on makeup I can't just wear a dress as a man" to which I nervously agreed.
Friday night turned into a very girly night with a few bottles of wine and my husband disappearing to the bathroom for an hour coming back in the first dress, full makeup (which was pretty impressive) and long curly brunette wig.
I think he picked his favourite outfit as he looked pretty amazing as a woman which was mind boggling to see.
I have to admit he had a lot more dresses and high heels than I realised and also admit it was fun seeing my usually macho husband being a bit subby and nervous trying on dresses in front of me.
We ended up with a few bags to go to the charity shops, some back into the attic in a wardrobe he has up there and some found their way back into my wardrobe which we have agreed are to share.
So Davina and Wife the next time you have a girly night in go for it and claim some dresses back. You will wonder why you ever threw some out in the first place..
Thanks for this blog keep blogging Davina and those who are contributing keep on its very useful.
By: Davina
Subject: Re: Hi
Well done Hannah
1) You're now a blogger too
2) You have found its therapeutic
3) You've faced your fears
4) You've had a girls night in with a twist
5) I'm jealous you stole my idea for a try on session
6) You've had fun with crossdressing
Hoping my next girls night in with my wife I can do similar and have a try on and sort out.
I went up the attic on the weekend to get the wifes summer dresses etc down and whilst up there had a sort out of my female clothing and need to sort it out ...
By: Katie
Subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Hi
I guess I looked at going to see personal shopper from a logical as opposed to emotional perspective and it never occurred to me that my wife would find it too much. That is why it is good to get feedback from other wives and partners.
There was a certain amount of peer pressure (via the forum) but it also meant that I could find the right style / size to stop me making mistakes and wasting money in the future. I was a man trying on dresses in a shop (private changing room) with the help of the sales assistant. I had seen a personal shopper in the past with my wife for my male side so knew what to expect.
It wasn't meant to be some intimate experience although she did ask quiet a few questions about crossdressing. She was also keen to understand how she could help other crossdressers - more sales I guess.
By: Hannah (Wife of Crossdresser)
Subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Hi
I'm getting into this blog messaging now I agree it is therapeutic.
Well done to Davinas wife and to Sindy and Emma and any other real women I've missed for adding thoughts here its good to read others are in the same position.
Also thanks to the Crossdressers for being open and not annoyed by the questions.
The girls night thing was a first and it was fun. Granted I was quite drunk by the end of it but he didn't expect anything sexy whilst dressed and was just happy that I was taking part so to speak and he did look quite good as a woman.
I hope it won't affect me as it has Sindy as if we do have further girls nights in it will be similar him dressed, wine whatever just a social thing. I thought of it as my best friend trying on clothes and distanced myself from thinking it's my husband in a dress with makeup etc.
After the dressing he came to bed as a man and there was nothing that affected us sexually. I teased him all weekend about seeing him crossdressed in so many outfits which I found fun making my husband cringe which is a role reversal to him teasing me and the children. They had no idea what we were laughing about as we looked at a dress in a shop window and I commented it was too long in length for him and would hide too much of his legs.
I'm quite happy that it relaxes him when he dresses and I don't always have to see him dressed but if crossdressing helps him relax then I think that's a good thing.
His stuff is in the attic now, it used to be in a bag under the bed but grew in size and our children grew in size also being 10 and 8 they're far more nosey so up the attic it all went incase our girls found Daddys stash of high heels and wig and dresses.
By: Sindy (Wife)
Subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Hi
Hannah, I agree - the makeover with a GG would be too much for me, too. Katie, your wife know but did you talk about it after? The worry is she's secretly fuming and all this is compounding into resentment. I don't know her and you know her best of course, but it's a shame you can't talk at all about the dressing, even just to say 'hey honey, I know you don't want any part of it and that's fine, but do you have any concerns?'
And Hannah, I did the girls night thing a few times and weirdly I was okay for the first few and then it started affecting me sexually and I started to find him less attractive all the time. I guess I couldn't get the imagery away or something. Or, possibly I lost a little respect or harboured resentment as it did feel like the only time he seemed really relaxed was dressed. That bummed me out at the time. So I stay away now.
And love how everyone has their things in the attic. I have a feeling this is very common, That should be the title of our book 'Attic Secrets' or 'Crossdressers in the Attic' lol.
All this is still helping me as well. Hannah, I hope you keep chatting here, too. It's even better to have some other wives ass their viewpoint. It's great to hear all sides as a secret shared is a secret halved. Is that the saying? Maybe we will all feel a little lightly after this.
By: Katie
Subject: Re: Re: Re: Hi
Hi Hannah
I went out dressed as a man but changed once I got there. There was a lot of email correspondence before I went so she knew exactly the situation.
Looking back I guess I got swept along with what seemed to be the normal path for crossdressers on a forum I was a member of (dangers of forums). It was all about going out dressed, makeovers etc.
I don't regret doing it as she treated me as normal human being and was really helpful and polite. As I said before my wife isn't interested in my dressing at the moment so it was really a way of getting that confirmation I think we all crave. The personal shopper was in a London department store far enough away so they'd be no chance of ever bumping into her again or her knowing my true identity (paranoid).
Your husband is lucky that he is able to share his dressing with you now which will be a huge relief for him.
By: Hannah (Wife of Crossdresser)
Subject: Re: Re: Hi
We've come a long way pretty rapidly.
I've read lots of transgender and transsexual websites but I agree with Davina Crossdressers are niche.
I'm a size 14-16 and my husband is medium built so we're compatible in clothes sizes..
I wouldn't like it if he went out and went to see a personal shopper dressed as a woman.
This would be taking it to another level I'm not happy with.
Keeping it between us and at home is fine.
By: Katie
Subject: Re: Hi
I'm glad the blog and chat are helping. It seems that you are making huge strides in accepting your husbands crossdressing.
I too have my own wardrobe in the attic but everything is mine. My wife and I are completely different sizes and the only thing we could possible share would be a necklace!
I can understand him being nervous and excited at the same time. I once went to see a personal shopper (only GG to ever see me dressed) and that was a whole melting pot of emotions.